By Theresa Camoriano
If something falls on your foot and hurts you, you may come out with a vulgar word. It indicates a temporary pain, panic and sense of helplessness, and that is perfectly normal.
However, if you find that vulgarities are becoming a normal part of your speech or writing, then you ought to consider why you are regularly exhibiting pain, panic and a sense of helplessness.
Vulgarities are similar to a child’s temper tantrum. They say, “I am in pain and I don’t like it, but I don’t know what to do about it.”
As an adult, do you really want to look like a helpless two-year-old having a temper tantrum, or do you want to exercise more control over your environment and take action to try to solve your problems?
If we do not like political correctness, which is a form of lying, then we ought to speak the truth and demand that others do the same. Speaking the truth is a form of strength that often requires courage. Speaking vulgarities is a form of weakness and requires no courage at all.
If we do not like the fact that Target has established a policy whereby men are free to use women’s restrooms and changing rooms, leaving women and girls vulnerable, then we should take positive action. Let Target know that we are taking our business elsewhere and tell them why. That is a form of strength. Simply cursing about Target is a form of weakness, requiring no strength or courage.
When I was a student in Russia in 1974, I wondered why the people allowed themselves to be kept down by a few Communist elites. They had the numbers and the power, if they would only use it. In today’s America, we have the power, but we need to use it wisely in order to create positive change, not waste our energy cursing and carrying on like a two-year-old having a useless temper tantrum.
The next time you find yourself using vulgarities, consider that you are just showing your weakness and helplessness. Instead of floundering around looking weak and helpless, try mustering up some courage and strength and taking action that will really make a positive difference.
(Theresa Camoriano is a patent attorney in Louisville KY.)
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